Adoption etiquette

Ma Beck at the Ward Wide Web has an amusing post offered as a Public Service Announcement on Adoption etiquette - basically it's answers to stupid questions. E.g.
"Aren't you afraid your daughter might have inherited some of her birthparents' bad traits?"

No. Aren't you afraid yours has?

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